Tweek or Tweet (trick or treat?)

Ola... wee senor... It's Halloween. Funny I'd say Halloween but people start celebrating it way before it even comes. Like Mondays or Saturdays and all that. I know quite a fair bit about Halloween considering back in Florida, we're much influenced by the Mexicano (famous for fiesta and fiesta and lots of fiesta)... In fact, I've done loads of cool decorations and theme parties as well as made (well, consult but the production team created/produced/constructed it) quite a handful of haunted houses like those you see in carnivals/theme parks.

Halloween in short is actually All Hallow's Eve. Or in Old Irish, we can say Summer's End and thus they call it the Celtic New Year. Something like celebration of the End of the Lighter Half and Beginning of the Darker Half.

Thus, it was weird but still understandable when people celebrate it earlier. Weird in the sense, that imagine someone celebrates Christmas or New Year earlier than it is... Like yesterday, I told a friend what it meant by the true celebration of Halloween. She was laughing at the thought of someone celebrating All Hallow's Eve on the eve of the eve. It's like celebrating New Year's Eve on the Eve of NYE itself (i.e. Dec 30th) or Eve of Xmas Eve (i.e. 23th Dec) and similar to CNY just because we're busy. Or it's a weekend or holiday. Well, Asian culture tells that we're all just adaptive but due to busy schedule and workdays, we just celebrate it whenever convenient and as long as it's fun, everyday can be Halloween or whatever party they feel like doing. The only original celebration is Valentine's Day or the origin of Saint Valentine himself. This is one celebration that has NO EVEs and celebrated exactly on Feb 14th. Unless someone decides to be cheapskate and buy roses in advance and celebrate it to avoid the hefty paying of loads and busy schedules or blaming that it falls on a week night.

Nonetheless, this is how Halloween is:

Halloween (or Hallowe'en) is an annual holiday observed on October 31, primarily in the United States, Canada, Ireland, and the United Kingdom. It has roots in the Celtic festival of Samhain and the Christian holiday All Saints' Day, but is today largely a secular celebration.

Common Halloween activities include trick-or-treating, wearing costumes and attending costume parties, carving jack-o'-lanterns, ghost tours, bonfires, apple bobbing, visiting haunted attractions, committing pranks, telling ghost stories or other frightening tales, and watching horror films.

The word Halloween is first attested in the 16th century and represents a Scottish variant of the fuller All-Hallows-Even ("evening"), that is, the night before All Hallows Day. Up through the early 20th century, the spelling "Hallowe'en" was frequently used, eliding the "v" and shortening the word. Although the phrase All Hallows is found in Old English (ealra hālgena mæssedæg, mass-day of all saints), All-Hallows-Even is itself not attested until 1556.

Historian Nicholas Rogers, exploring the origins of Halloween, notes that while "some folklorists have detected its origins in the Roman feast of Pomona, the goddess of fruits and seeds, or in the festival of the dead called Parentalia, it is more typically linked to the Celtic festival of Samhain, whose original spelling was Samuin (pronounced sow-an or sow-in)". The name is derived from Old Irish and means roughly "summer's end". A similar festival was held by the ancient Britons and is known as Calan Gaeaf (pronounced Kálan Gái av).

Snap-Apple Night by Daniel Maclise showing a Halloween party in Blarney, Ireland, in 1832. The young children on the right bob for apples. A couple in the center play a variant, which involves retrieving an apple hanging from a string. The couples at left play divination games.

The festival of Samhain celebrates the end of the "lighter half" of the year and beginning of the "darker half", and is sometimes regarded as the "Celtic New Year".

The ancient Celts believed that the border between this world and the Otherworld became thin on Samhain, allowing spirits (both harmless and harmful) to pass through. The family's ancestors were honoured and invited home while harmful spirits were warded off. It is believed that the need to ward off harmful spirits led to the wearing of costumes and masks. Their purpose was to disguise oneself as a harmful spirit and thus avoid harm. In Scotland the spirits were impersonated by young men dressed in white with masked, veiled or blackened faces. Samhain was also a time to take stock of food supplies and slaughter livestock for winter stores. Bonfires played a large part in the festivities. All other fires were doused and each home lit their hearth from the bonfire. The bones of slaughtered livestock were cast into its flames. Sometimes two bonfires would be built side-by-side, and people and their livestock would walk between them as a cleansing ritual.

Another common practice was divination, which often involved the use of food and drink.

The name 'Halloween' and many of its present-day traditions derive from the Old English era.

So, in the words invented by me long ago when I had to play a transformed witch in the school play... here goes:

"Tweek or Tweet (trick or treat), smell me feet... gimme something good to eat! Waaaaaaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha..." (oops... i drop my ugly long nose.. lolz) Happy Trick or Treating to ya all and Happy Halloween.

Oh, in other turn of events, before I forrget. I've to congratulate a good brother of mine in his excellent progress in acquiring his "target". I hope the missile that he has launched (he said he's deployed the ICBMs compared to my suggestion of using Carpet Bombs or Scud Storms) will detonate the target seeing that target has shown interest to be willing to be blown-away. LOLz. Good luck o'chum! We have your back. I'm so happy that I incidentally path the way to this glorious good news. Awaiting your mission accomplish report back in the Air Base.

Another turn of events is the recent decision of another fellow buddy that decided to drop "Milk Chocolates" (hahahhaa, she's gonna kill me when she reads this.. :P~) and go for "Dark Chocolates"... We went across a couple of it and she said she didn't want those that were too bitter (90% cocoa) and settled for those which are like "70% cocoa". Interesting huh? hahaha. I told her, in that case, I'm risking my allergy for "Red Beans" and hope my choice would miraculously turn into the "Milk Chocolate" instead too.

Nothing else much happened last night besides the gang coming forth for a round (well, there's about 2-3 rounds I think) of drinks while the BWF (Badminton) was Live. Poor Ray ended up watching Blackburn kicking Chelsea's Ass and decided to go home and watch the Man Utd match instead. I got to enjoy it damn well because my crew made the unthinkable without asking or talking to me about it first. They installed all our LED boards from the stadium at my playground garden and decor the entire place for Halloween and brought our concert series speakers and equipment just to watch that football match. CRAZY them! My security guards were so nice to let them do such a party and they went to the Residents' Association directly.. Smart team I have. The Association actually let them do it cos it's free food, free booze, free football and free party etc (basically benefit everyone! everything to gain and nothing to lose!) and they OK-ed it without me. Hahahaha... well, my house is a total mess now with them partying all night long and it was like the FIFA World Cup Finals (The Spain match all over again.) Watching it in HD was like at the Stadium itself and looking at the Red Devils were larger than life! I think the entire Mines area could benefit from it. I see some people watching it from their balcony of the condo which is like how many KM/Miles away from us. Even the Mines Resort hotel guests also enjoyed it from their balcony. Hahaha... Ok, enough with the mess.

While picking up J.Lee yesterday, I dropped by next door to pass some stuff to a special someone. She was surprised to see me. Probably she thought I was gonna gate-crash her Halloween Party and knowing her, she sure decorate and do up a great party. Well, I bought her a Chocolate (coincidentally, it's Milk Chocolate and has nothing to do with the conversation I had above. Just a disclaimer in case anyone is assuming or confused). And attached to the Chocolate (it's from Cadbury, the factory itself in Victoria, Australia. A limited edition one cause you can only find it there. It's much more nicer, more unique and more sentimental). I remembered I made a very big mistake and that boo-boo costed me. So, this time, I took the initiative and went all the way there to bring the unmelted and proper one back to let her savor the best as it should had been. I also know that when she visits a new place, she would collect the fridge magnets from that destination as a symbolic souvenir denoting her presence. Therefore, instead of fridge magnets, I got a small Koala (with a simple but cute t-shirt on it) to 'grab' onto the Chocolate. It denotes bringing a piece of the place back to her instead.

Oh, it's time to go for my rejuvenation session and dim sum now. Happy Jack-O-lantern(ing) guys... *evil laugh*

A reply to Tun Mahathir's atrocious blog post

Dr M - self-admitted racist

Valerie Mohan

I really don't understand how someone as intelligent as you can come up with statements that are so blatantly ignorant. I'm 25 years old, my grandparents came from Kerala and I only speak English and Malay. I've never been to India, don't speak the language and all I can say is tanah tumpahnya darahku. 

How dare you talk about fair distribution when you and your cronies have amassed vast fortunes at the expense of others? I don't see you going out among the less fortunate Malays and equitably distributing your wealth! If I follow from what you wrote you didn't deserve a place at medical school which means you took the place of someone who better deserved it. Which is what is happening all over this country in every arena.

Its not racial issues that the people are most concerned about its a lack of competency that is perpetuated because of racial policies. 

Malaysians would not care if the vast majority of the government were Malay if they were able to discharge their duties competently. If there were 10 doctors and only one was Malay I would go to him if he was best at his job. But we have idiots running this country (the government, the police, the MACC, the judiciary) to the ground and they happen to be a Malay majority so of course people are pissed. 

Do you think Malaysians would be angry if the country was well run and everyone's rights were upheld just because it was run by a Malay majority. Take a serious look at the majority of politicians and the rest of the people running the country (non malays included) - they are morons! The government is in shambles, the police are seen as the enemy and the judiciary is a joke - you really think intelligent Malaysians are angry at the Malays in general? 

We are angry at those in power because we cannot trust you to do what's in Malaysia's best interest, we don't feel safe in our own country, we have no freedom of expression because you need to keep us quiet in order to stay in power and we don't believe that when there is a crime commited you are actually to get to the bottom of it unless it serves your own interests. 

This racially charged hate mongering has to stop, it's stupid and unnecessary. 

The real issue is our country is badly run and yet the government insists on discriminitory policies that seems to ensure its continuity. Did you ever stop to think that the person who's place you took in medical school could have been the one to lead Malaysia the way it deserves? Maybe that merits discussion?

(Valerie Mohan was responding Mahathir posting entitled HUMAN DEVELOPMENT SEMINAR, MELBOURNE. Click here to read Dr M's controversial posting in full Dr M tells Malays: To be given handicaps is to ensure fairness)

Dr M tells Malays: To be given handicaps is to ensure fairness

Mahathir Mohamad

I am not ashamed to admit that I cannot compete with the Chinese and Indian students when studying medicine. They had much better results than me and the other six Malay students for entry into the Medical College.

It is not shameful to lose out against them. Simply to catch up with them we need handicaps. To be given handicaps is to ensure fairness, not discrimination. 

I would like to apologise to the students and others for failing to turn up to give the talk I had agreed to. I would also like to thank those who sent get well messages, fruits and flowers while I was in hospital in Melbourne.

Honestly I feel I have lost an opportunity to meet and talk to what may be the future leaders of Malaysia. For this reason I am writing down here what would have been the contents of my talk.

The suggested topic for my talk was, "Are we ready for 1 Malaysia: Does Race Still Play a Part?"

I will be frank but factual. My only interest is the country we all love. I am past self-interest.

First let me refer to the slogan "1 Malaysia".

Without the Government spelling out the precise meaning of 1 Malaysia, different people are giving their own interpretations which not only differ from each other but are in conflict with each other.

The Malays generally interpret 1 Malaysia to mean real adoption of the national language as the home language by every citizen as happens in other multiracial countries. They also expect the abolition of Chinese and Tamil schools and ensuring the private sector has a fair participation of Malays and other Bumiputeras.

The Chinese and Indians interprete 1 Malaysia to mean amendments to the constitution to eliminate provisions for the special treatment of the Malays and their protection by the Rulers, removal of the quota for Malays in the Civil Service, termination of the NEP, termination of the 30 per cent quota for Malays and indigenous people in business, termination of the quota for awards of licences, contracts and APs. All awards to be on a competitive basis and open to all irrespective of race. They also expect perpetuation and maintenance of Chinese and Indian schools by the Government.

These two interpretations of 1 Malaysia admittedly are by the more extreme groups. The more moderate ones from both sides are milder in their expectations but their minimum intetrpretations still provide irreconcilable conflicts. 1 Malaysia clearly means different things to the different races.

This is the present position and it is obvious that race still play a very important role.

Question: It is now more than 50 years since independence. For how long do the Malays expect to be treated as special and different from the other citizens?

Answer: For as long as the Chinese and Indians prefer to be identified with their countries of origins. For as long as they want to keep their home languages and their schools.

Question: The so-called social contract were made a long time ago. We were not involved and we cannot be bound by it forever. When can we ignore the social contract and draw up our own social contract?

Answer: When everyone agrees to throw out the old social contract and replace it with a new one.

This will take a long time. As the new contract will be between races, racial factors would be included. Unless both sides agree to give up their races' own rights as spelt out in the first contract i.e. the preservation of own home languages and schools etc. the rights of the indigenous races to their special position etc must remain a part of the new social contract.

It is not certain that each would not demand for more than what they got under the old contract. It is likely there would be no agreement and no contract. Ths would lead to perpetual conflicts.

Question: So there will be no solution. The racial divisions and conflicts will remain.

Answer: In Vision 2020 one of the objectives is to create a bangsa Malaysia.

The belief at that time was that if Malaysia becomes a fully developed country, it would become very prosperous.

This prosperity would be fairly shared between the races. There would be less jealousy between them. There would also be less fear of any race being dominated by any other race.

The political cooperation between the races would also be made more meaningful as loyalty to the country would override other loyalties. In fact non-racial parties would be the trend.

It would take a long time perhaps - depending on fair wealth distribution. But once it takes off the pace will increase.

Malaysians of all races would be so proud of their country and its great achievements that the desire to be linked with other countries would be much diminished if not disappear altogether (as happens in prosperous multi-racial countries like the US - where the German, Eisenhower led the war against Germany. Eisenhower was American first and his country of origin was irrelevant to him).

The Malaysians at that stage would be Bangsa Malaysia first and always. The thing to do now is to ensure prosperity for the country and its fair distribution. Removing current rights of any of the races at this moment will only lead to racial conflicts which would obstruct prosperity.

Question: There are Malays in the opposition who condemn the NEP as unfair discrimination.

Answer: There are also Chinese and Indians who appreciate what the Malays have done and support the NEP. They are not so vocal for obvious reasons.

One should look at the Malays who condemn the NEP. If they are politicians or supporters of certain parties their views are motivated by a desire to get Chinese support. They assume that they themselves would lead the nation and enjoy power and opportunities through Chinese support. But there will be a pay-back period. The support is not for free. The Malay leaders will be like Nizar (Jamaluddin) when he was Menteri Besar of Perak - mere puppets.

The non-politically educated Malays feel ashamed that they have to be helped. They would like to be recognised as people who succeeded on their own. If we study these people almost invariably they have benefited from the NEP. They appear to be ashamed of this.

They are ashamed to admit that they were unable to compete with the other races. I am not ashamed to admit that I cannot compete with the Chinese and Indian students when studying medicine. They had much better results than me and the other six Malay students for entry into the Medical College. Even at that time the British promised to the Rulers to help educate the Malays. I had my chance because of the affirmative action then. On pure merit I would not be a doctor today, not because I was not qualified, but my qualification was lower than others.

One has to remember that the Chinese civilisation is more than 4000 years old. No other civilisation has lasted that long. Naturally they have developed a culture better able to survive under all conditions. It is my belief that if the percentage of Chinese in the United Kingdom for example is the same as in Malaysia, UK would be better developed than it is now. It is not surprising that the Chinese excel in developing Malaysia (for which they are amply rewarded).

It is not shameful to lose out against them. Simply to catch up with them we need handicaps. To be given handicaps is to ensure fairness, not discrimination. That is why in golf you have handicaps. That is why in all contests there must be equality between the contestants.

It is selfish if having benefited from the handicaps you want to deny others from having them.

But when all is said and done, those who are given the benefits of handicaps must make honest efforts to use them properly. If they don't then they must forfeit the handicaps in the future.

Chapter 20: How to Have an Exclusive, Long Term, Mature, Serious (and Healthy) Relationship

Do you want to know how to have an exclusive, long-term, mature, and serious (etc.) relationship ? Even if you are as young as say 16 ? Read on...


Steps:

1. Time Together: You have to see one another face-to-face frequently to make it work, you need to be carving out times for dates for you two as a couple. Even if you have to mark it down on calendars, do it! Call each other often. Basically, if you're a girlfriend (or a boyfriend), anything you do together is a date.
2. Time Apart: You have to be independent, too - You need to spend time away from one another. You have to be capable of being a healthy and happy individual without your boyfriend (or girlfriend) around all the time. You need to balance the time you have - between your friends, family, your hobbies/interests, school, your job/career, and time by yourself. Have your own life apart from your relationship.
3. Communication: You have to communicate verbally (talk) with one another. About the serious, important, and major issues, and also about the joking, non-serious, unimportant, little stuff too. Talk about anything you want - how your day went, viewpoints, opinions, thoughts, wants, needs, desires, ambitions, goals, your past, how you want your future to be, hopes, dreams, insecurities, fears, wishes, or what's going on in your life.
4. Trust: You have to trust each other for your relationship to work and not be torn apart by jealousy. You need to trust each other enough to not think that they will cheat, or do anything else to hurt you emotionally, physically, or otherwise.
5. Support: You must support each other through thick and thin, no matter what. Uplift the other person in good ways. Be there (physically, emotionally, or any way you can) for each other during the happy times and the not so happy times. It will make all the difference!
6. Honesty: You must be honest and truthful with each other on everything and about anything and everything that may come up. Lies (even if the other person never finds out the truth) will just weaken your bond / relationship and eventually make you grow apart. Especially if you wait a long time to tell him / her. So the best thing to do is to always be honest with the other person and tell them right away.
7. Self-Respect: Only you control how someone else treats you. Letting someone walk all over you, always doing what they want, and having no boundaries makes you resentful over time and far less attractive.
8. Respect: Respect is a biggy. You need to respect and accept each other's body, feelings, wants, needs, and everything else that comes along with being with the other person. Respect is also no abuse, mistreatment, damage, or misuse in any way, shape, or form (physically, emotionally, sexually, or verbally).

Chapter 19: How to Give Your Boyfriend Space

It's a bit of a running joke sometimes, about the man in your life needing more "space", but in reality, it's no joke at all. Any relationship in which two people behave in an overly dependent manner can feel oppressive or smothering for either party, and indicates a need for one or both people to learn to cope apart as well as together.

A healthy relationship will always benefit from giving each other space, and never more so than when you feel that your boyfriend is champing at the bit to be "released" a little more often to just be by himself or to spend time with his mates. If you're finding it challenging to let go even though the relationship's becoming a bit too much to handle, it's a sign that now more than ever, you do need to learn to give him his space. Here are some suggestions to help you. Give him space enough to miss you but never leave it long enough for him too forget and stop needing you !.

Steps:

1. Reach a decision that it's alright to give your boyfriend space. The sooner you accept that giving one another space is normal, healthy, and indeed necessary for a flourishing relationship, the better for the both of you. If things have been reaching breakpoint in your relationship, try letting the situation go for a while. Stop wanting to control what he's doing, and stop worrying and being frustrated about what you're not getting out of the relationship. Instead, just relax in the present moment. By letting things be, they often have a way of fixing themselves on their own.
   • Realize that your boyfriend is more likely to want to break up with you if you keep breathing down his neck than if you give him the space he craves.
   • Don't assume the worst when he asks for space; if he still gives signs of caring about you and wanting to see you now and then, take it at face value that he really does need space. Perhaps he's stressed from a heavy workload, or snowed under with exam studies. Try to look for the actual reasons beyond yourself.
   • Trust. Trust that your love will blossom with space, rather than wither. Part of this is about examining your own motives for being with him – if it's just love, you'll unearth this trust. But if it's security, money, prestige, or some other non-love reason you're with him for, now is a good time to re-examine your purpose in the relationship.
2. Ask questions to clarify what's going on. Without appearing paranoid or overly emotional, be forthright in asking your boyfriend what he sees as being given space, and how much time he's contemplating. Is he wanting a few days or weeks now, or does he want this to be a permanent arrangement, such as having every Saturday to himself? This can help to reassure you that he has sound reasons for wanting space that don't involve breaking up with you, and it gives both of you some solid ground to work out the duration or precise times you won't be turning up in his life.
   • This is a good opportunity for you to also outline the space you'd like too. Don't be bratty about it; simply think of genuine reasons what you'd like, such as Friday nights free to spend with your girlfriends!
3. Sort something out amicably. At this stage, it's vital that you don't come across as needy, petulant, or terrified of losing him. Whatever you do, do not walk off in a huff or throw a fit. Both reactions are calculated to have him retreat even further into his shell and feel justified for wanting even more space! Instead, visualize yourself as a person negotiating something that is perfectly reasonable, then go ahead and negotiate it without appearing too down.
   • Don't look like you need him. It's absolutely vital that you show you're not needy, clingy, or desperate for someone else to complete you. Remind yourself that you're your own strong, confident, and independent woman. You don't need him to ensure your peace and happiness. A strong and confident woman with a sense of her own purpose in life is extremely attractive to guys, so you'll be doing both of you a favor by being this way.
   • Avoid begging for anything. There is no harm in asking him occasionally for help, for extra time together, and for indications of your future direction together. It becomes undesirable when you fall into asking constantly, begging him to do things with you or to spend more time with you. And it's worse if you put on a turn, cry, and generally act miserable. Just don't do it!
4. Shape up your own time. Instead of feeling mopey and clingy, see this as a great opportunity to occupy yourself with a range of things to do and friends to meet up with. Rediscover or uncover a hobby, new or old friends, and activities. Become more involved in your career direction and perhaps think about improving your chances of getting a promotion. Get some purpose back into your life that allows you to grow and exist apart from your boyfriend, and to be able to prove to him that you're capable on your own, which will reassure him more than anything else that you're not going to suffocate him.
   • Get outdoors and do some fun activities. Long walks, hikes, climbing, swimming, sailing, etc., will improve your mood considerably.
   • If you feel as if you've lost yourself when he asks for space, this is a good indication that you need the space as much as he does. Spend some time contemplating, reflecting, and even meditating. If you're not sure about what direction you're taking in life, or what you really care about beyond your boyfriend, use this time to do some deep thinking.
   • Realize and embrace the power of showing that you have a life of your own.
5. Be patient. If you both want the relationship to succeed at a gradual pace, then love the space for the chances it provides you both. Take time to discover each other and yourselves rather than always trying to please one another or set one another off when things don't fall into place as you'd like. When you allow your boyfriend the space to think, to do the things he loves, and to be with his mates, he'll start missing you soon enough and wanting you by his side again.
6. Respect his choices and his freedom. The more respect and freedom you give your boyfriend, the more he'll come to you, because you'll be someone who doesn't make demands on him. Nobody likes demands, and guys are especially uncomfortable when they feel the pressure of romantic demands. Such pressure can push them away from people pushing the demands on them. On the other hand, if a guy can spend time with someone who loves him for who he is, and just lets him be himself with no conditions or demands placed on him, he'll absolutely love you. Love unconditionally, which simply means: set no conditions!
7. Be his best friend. Listen when he talks and don't comment until he's done talking. When you do comment, be positive and supportive. Don't criticize or judge – if you feel you need to do that, think very carefully about why you want to be with him. Be his buddy, make him feel at ease and comfortable with you. He'll soon start pouring out all of his thoughts and feelings, not just about his life and other people, but he'll soon begin to uncover his true feelings for you as well. Why? Because he feels safe and comfortable again to do so.
8. Change your own bad habits. If you have any bad habits you know he doesn't like (like whining, clinging, gossiping, etc.), seek to change them. And prove to him you are changed. He may test you, so give him time – his new trust won't come fast, so you need to be patient and consistent. Always remember, people do change once they make up their mind to do so, which means so can you!
9. Don't give your boyfriend space as a ruse just to manipulate him and then try to seek to control him again. Do it because you want to change the way you approach your relationship together and because you love him and trust that this is the right thing for your relationship at this point. When you approach the space issue with the right mindset of broadening your own life experiences and respecting his time to do the same, you'll be more confident and independent no matter what the final outcome.
10. Relax and be the girl he fell in love with. Be happy and carefree, learn to love yourself as much as you love him, and find constructive ways to share time together and apart. Once you've got the balance sorted, you'll never look back.

Tips:

• If he chooses to do something or say something, don't assume it always has to do with you. He may not be aware of what he's saying because he's just sharing freely, like he would with his friend. So, don't take things personally. Lighten up and joke around with him. Be his buddy. Relax!
• Don't try too hard. He'll see right through it!
• Make a list of things you want to accomplish while you're giving him space. Have an eye to making this list a permanent feature in your life, not just as a way of passing time now; the newly focused you is going to be well-rounded and capable!
• Keep healthy and fit and don't allow this time apart to become a source of letting yourself go. Exercise to clear your mind and release any pent-up anger. Eat healthy. Clear out your wardrobe and keep only the best clothes to make yourself feel good about yourself.
• Change your hair color. Become new and improved – for you first and foremost, as a pact to yourself that you're going to get on with things regardless of the outcome of the space issue.
• Show him that if he's thinking of leaving you he'll lose out big time. Remember though, that if he chooses to turn any prolonged distance between you into a permanent break-up, it's his loss, not yours.

Warnings:

• Don't cling, don't criticize, don't complain, it's a huge turnoff!
• Don't try to know his every move while you are giving him space, its shows a stalker-like person!
• Don't try to call his friends if his phone is not reachable that will irritate him. Instead, be patient.

Upgrade complete!

When I was away for weeks, Mummy gave me a surprise to cheer me up. She took cheeky-boy to the body shop and had it upgraded.

Here's a look of it before the bad boy was re-transformed:

Mummy later decided that she wanted to get a new convertible and it would not match this bad boy if I were just to sit in it. That's when she took my magazine quietly while I was away and added the R8 Spyder body-kit with new set of wheels.

Yesterday, I was at the workshop waiting for the auto parts to be completely retro-fitted and after the weeks of paint job and customization, it was now ready for roadster hogging. Dad was eager to play with it cause Mummy won't let him so, he eventually got his hands on it for now and will be using it for awhile before it goes to my garage.

Here's the look of the new TT, which is now upgraded from Cheeky-boy to Nottiboy Ver 2.0.  R8 Sypder. Or... better now known as the Notti Sypder. (Psst: Mummy said not nice if the TT sign is there, so we got rid of it! Woohoo~!)

Here's the new look:

Here's the bad boy without the rims yet.

The full body completed and the new paint job.

The back making it look vengeful and daring

The front is fierce and charging

The shiny rims that will burn them rubbers

The rear before the spoiler butts out

And finally... the Notti-boy is ready to strip tease 'em roads...
Jason Statham will need to step aside now. Oh yeah, James Bond also races around some ruins with this bad boy before.

Image via Wikipedia

So, if you see this plate on the road... please forgive me... hahaha

Oh, speaking of upgrade... can I upgrade some dumbo's brain?

This incident happened about 3 months back. I had some parcels to be sent to Lebanon at the end of July and was left unsent by UPS causing huge losses to one of the company's subsidiary. A letter demanding rectification to be done was sent to UPS Malaysia on Aug 11th but was only sent out by the secretary via email to them attaching the file on Aug 16th but later followed by snail post.

We received email response from them on Aug 18th but I was lenient though I gave them 24hours to do so. Today, when I asked them for the updates, neither of the staff knew anything about it. So, I checked my email sent box to see that by the 20s of Aug, I actually had emailed the secretary of the Executive Director asking for an update. That email was later bounced back and it went into my inbox after I came back from my overseas trip on 3rd Sept. The bounce was from the mail server, so I know her mailbox is full and in queue prior to the download.

Prior to that, UPS actually wrote back officially on 19th Aug and she received the letter on 21st Aug but no one on earth was actually informed about it. Only just now, at the Quarter Management Meeting, did her assistant took it out to show me and everyone else about it.

To my surprise, the letter was Attention-ed to me! She didn't even bother to email or call or sms or fax or even do anything to tell me I've got a letter which is sent to their office (by protocol, UPS did the right thing to send to the subsidiary instead of HQ as it was a matter of the subsidiary and not the parent holding company). That letter sat in her tray box as we speak!

How on Earth, am I to take legal action against UPS now that it is 2 months late? And the excuse is: "My boss never ask me about it, so I didn't know need to tell. I thought is for my knowledge and filing only". So, please tell me again, where did God misplace her brains? I may not be her direct boss but I'm the Vice President of her Parent Company whereby her boss reports to us! And she knew that all their International Affairs and Company's business in & outs must also go through my dept and especially ME! Yet, everytime, she needs to be spoon fed. If I don't ask, she don't tell or do.

And isn't it normal that you know the letter is addressed to me, so shouldn't I get a copy of the letter? Or at least be made aware of it? She gossips and talks to my secretary every week and she didn't even bother to even talk about it???

Sigh~ sometimes, I just doubt where they may have misplaced their brains.