Chapter 22: How to Cope With Insecurities and Anxiety About Your Relationship

Relationships can be the scariest thing sometimes. With insecurities, not even the strongest, most independent women and men can go unaffected when in a relationship. Anxiety just makes you fret about your insecurities. With these tips, they won't make your insecurities or anxiety go away immediately. But they may be able to help you shed light on why you feel this way.


Steps:

1. Explore why you feel insecure and what do you feel insecure about. Also, if possible, explore where these insecure came from. If you're unsure, do some serious consideration. Insecurities don't sprout up overnight.
2. Talk it over with your significant other about your insecurities. They will never know these things if you never tell them.
3. Talk it over with someone else (friend or family) who you can bounce ideas off of.
4. Find ways to eliminate your anxiety. Every person is different in how they deal. One person may love meditation, another may love being extremely busy all the time. Try to preoccupy yourself, it will be a great distraction from your insecurities and will give you a reprieve on your anxiety.
5. If you're having fears about losing your partner, explore the worst case scenarios. Does the relationship ending mean that the world also ends? No. It means the little world you had with that one person ends, but it is something you are able to recover from. What you're fearing is the pain and the potential rejection that comes from the relationship ending. It's natural to fear these things, but it's worth it to say it's possible to recover from it.
6. Examine yourself. It is possible that your mood can be affected by a bad day, or having a bad night's sleep? It's easy to get negative if we're already in that mind frame.
7. Be honest about the relationship. Actions speak louder than words. If you're insecure because of how your SO is acting towards you, then that's something to explore. Sometimes there can be a legitimate reason for why we're feeling a certain way.

Tips:

• Communication is key! You can't regret effectively communicating with your SO. But if you never communicated with them, it makes it harder for the relationship to grow.
• Volunteering, writing, painting, video games, exercise, friends are all good examples on how to handle your anxiety.

Warnings:

• If your partner is intentionally making you feel insecure, then it's time to end it. They're being a jerk and that's not what you deserve.
• Drinking excessive amounts of alcohol, doing drugs, self-mutilation, participating in fight clubs or dogfights, sleeping around with other people, or making doilies are all bad examples on how to handle your anxiety (kidding with that last part).