Chapter 2: How to Tell if It's an Acquaintance, Friend, Crush, or Love

Think you're in love? Read these steps to help find out.


Steps:

1. Ask yourself why. Do you love that boy 'cause he makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside or because he's on the football team? Does that girl make your heart flutter because she's sweet and understands you or because she's a popular cheerleader? Think about it.
2. Figure out why they like you (if they do like you, that is). Is your love a good person who wouldn't hurt you for the world or is he/she someone who dates you 'cause "your body is perfect and would dump you as soon as you gained a few pounds"? Ask them or stuff the front of your shirt with some cotton and see what happens.
3. Do you feel genuine affection for this person or are you using them as an escape route?Say you just got dumped by someone. You meet someone else who you automatically think is the ONE. But you're probably just fooling yourself because you haven't gotten over your last boy/girlfriend. Take your time, assess the situation, and determine whether your affection is real.
4. If you talk on occasion, or at school you wave in the hallways, this person is most likely an acquaintance. You are comfortable enough around them to put yourself out there for a little bit. You can casually converse, but it's likely that you don't get into deep conversations about emotions. For girls, most of them just ask about love interests, etc.
5. If you spend a lot of time with them, help them with problems, or even know some personal things about them, this person would most likely be considered a friend. If you feel open around them and you're not afraid to really talk to them, that's a good sign. This person is also probably a friend if you know that they like talking to you too. For guys, you do the guy handshake thing. For girls, you hug as a greeting and a goodbye.
6. If you're very friendly with them, offer to help in any way, or notice physical attractions to this person, it's likely that they are your crush. A lot of crush characteristics come with physical/emotional attractions, so this is an obvious sign of your affection.
7. Depending on the circumstances, if you're in a relationship with this person, it could be love. One of the best ways to tell if you're in love is if you put them as a very big priority in your life, and mean it. For example, if you are willing to share something special with this person, it could be a sign of love. Depending on what your idea of love is, you should be able to tell how you feel about this person.

WARNINGS:

• Don't kiss someone because it is fun. Kissing someone frequently may make that person think that you are serious about him or her. But, kissing them too much may make them think that you're only with them because of their lips.
• Don't use alcohol or drugs to make your crush like you more. If thats what it takes to get his or her affection then they don't deserve it.
• If you think you can't unlove them, see if a friend will find out who they like. That way, if you do make a move, you won't look stupid.
• Don't go and get your heart broken over a cute guy or perfect/ideal girl. Don't ever feel like you need a relationship, because being single can be just as enjoyable.
• Don't get your hopes up for a person who is currently in a relationship with someone else. How do you know that he or she won't do the same thing to you if you two date?
• Don't even put any hope for a person who hasn't love you entirely at all yet. No matter how hard the both of you may try, it may NOT necessarily work and be the perfect one. Especially if you're not destined to be. Fate alone isn't sufficient enough.