Chapter 26: How to Form a Strong Bond in Your Relationship

Relationships are a tricky thing. They have their ups and downs. It is something that like anything else in this world needs work. If we let ourselves be loved and let things be we have much higher chance to maintain a good relationship.


Steps:

1. Be sensitive to the need of each other. When you notice any differences in your partner's behaviour, ask how is she/he is; is he/she tired or happy? A lot of times we fail to ask how our partner is because we often times so wrapped up in ourselves that we neglect each other.
2. Don't mix up the house environment with work environment. If there is any problem that is frustrating at work don't bring it at home.
3. Once in awhile give something to each other to cheer each other up. It can be a kiss, hug, candle, or a simple thank you. Remember that celebrating your loved one is not just for Valentine day.
4. Be grateful for the things each other has.
5. Look at the big picture. Don't waste each other's energy on the things that don't matter. Those things are people's affairs or non-constructive arguments.

Tips:

• Don't try to be perfect, just be you.
• Look for positive things in each other.
• Trust each other.
• Forgive each other if you have an argument.
• Don't rush into anything.
• Have patience with each other.

The color of Yellow and its many meanings/uses

There's this interesting article that talks about the color of Yellow from The Star News today and I thought it'll be interesting to share that. But I'll only quote the un-sensitive part and leave out the political things as I do not endorse or want to be involved in the chaos and end up being questioned later for any National Security Threat.

The extract comes about like this... "And I Quote:"

In psychology, the colour is associated with optimism and cheerfulness.

Yellow, the colour of the sun, is linked with laughter, happiness and good times.

People surrounded by yellow feel optimistic because the brain actually releases more serotonin, the happy hormone that influences mood and sense of well-being.

But yellow can also be quickly overpowering if over-used. When intense, it can inflame and also evoke fear.

Studies show that babies cry more in bright yellow rooms and adults are more likely to lose their tempers in such places.

Apparently, energy levels can be taken up by the intensity of the colour to the point of it becoming an irritant.

Primarily, yellow is used to attract attention.

That is why most danger signs come in yellow and black.

Spiritually, the hue is said to provide clarity of thought and enlightenment of mood.

Yellow has a very colourful use in language. The terms “yellow belly” or “yellow streak” connote it with cowardice, deceit or betrayal.

During the Middle Ages, paintings by Christian artists depicted Judas by dressing him in yellow.

In China, a pornographic film is called “yellow movie”, unlike the “blue movie” used in the west and elsewhere.

In Arab culture, people can recognise a “yellow smile” – a fake expression.

Such smiles are put on when people want to hide their lack of interest, or any other emotion.

It is similar to the French expression of rire jaune (yellow laughter), which means to laugh from the wrong side of the mouth or feigned mirth.

Politically, yellow characterises freedom and moderation in many countries.

In the US, where yellow traditionally has a negative nuance, the Gadsden Flag, a symbol of American independence, has become popular again, especially with “Tea Party” activists.

The yellow flag, with a fierce-looking rattlesnake, coiled and ready to strike, bears the motto: “Don’t Tread on Me”.

The US is also the origin of “yellow journalism” – the phrase to describe irresponsible, exaggerated, lurid and slanderous reporting that can be traced to the late 1800s when two newspaper owners tried to outdo each other with their front-page stories to get the highest circulation.

Joseph Pulitzer (yes, of the Pulitzer Prize fame) who owned the New York World was the first to make use of sensational journalism to impress readers.

For example, his headline for a story on a heat wave that killed many people was: “How Babies are Baked”.

His rival, William Randolph Hearst, who owned the San Francisco Examiner, bought the New York Journal and also bought over Pulitzer’s top writers to outdo the World.

The rivalry was most intense before the Spanish-American War, when both papers churned out outrageous headlines to whip up support for the US, much to the dismay of other publishers and editors.

Both papers were denounced as “yellow journals”, inferring that Pulitzer and Hearst were cowards who chose the easy way to gain readers through sensationalisation and false news rather than responsible reporting.

Unquote.

So, let's not think anything "Yellow" beyond this and push further. On the contrary, I now have an interest in colors under the segment of Psychology instead. Interesting, huh? Yellow can actually have so much mental and physical effects on human. What about other colors? What should I paint my bedroom with? What's soothing and relaxing to choose from? What will make babies sleep better at night/day without waking the Dads & Moms in the middle of the night so we have less "sleepless" occasions? Ironically, Colors DO in fact, associate with Feng Shui... and it's no surprise, the right colors will bring you the right elements such as health, harmony, longevity etc etc etc... especially Prosperity.

Right, have a Yellow Weekend, readers. (Psst: Those of you at Yellowstone Park, don' blow your top, aye? Savvy?)

the F.U.C.K. word well explained [Courtesy of Julian Tan]

An abstract came onto Facebook awhile ago which should be shared for the knowledge of the General Public. The favorite word of Julian is well displayed and explained in such context and pretext with the proper intention and not to be misunderstood. I disclaim that this isn't anything offensive but just for the sole purpose of comedy, fun & unrelated. Other disclaimers apply.

So, before I share that with you, may I just say happy "FUCKing" before you get to hear the words "FUCK you".

>:)

And I Quote:

WELL EXPLAINED:

In ancient England people couldn't have sex prior to marriage without the King's permission. So if they wished to fornicate, they had to apply to the King, pay the necessary charges and fees and get a Card stating that they were permitted to have sex. That card was hung outside the door as a warning to others not to invade the privacy of a room.

The Card read " Fornication Under Consent of King" (in short , F.U.C.K )!!

Thus a new word was born and it went on to become probably the most used, abused and understood word in the whole world.

Perhaps one of the most interesting and colorful words in the English language today is the word "fuck". It is the one magical word, which just by its sound, can describe pain, pleasure, love, and hate.

In language, "fuck" falls into many grammatical categories.

It can be used as a verb, both transitive (Mary fucked John) and intransitive (John was fucked by Mary).

It can be an action verb (John really gives

a fuck), a passive verb (Mary really doesn't give a fuck), an adverb (Mary is fucking interested in John), or as a noun (Mary is a terrific fuck).

It can also be used as an adjective (Mary is fucking beautiful) or an interjection (Fuck! I'm late for my date with Mary).

It can even be used as a conjunction (John is ugly, fuck, he's also stupid).

As you can see, there are very few words with the overall versatility of the word "fuck."

Aside from its sexual connotations, this incredible word can be used to describe many situations:

1) Surprise -- "What the fuck are you doing here?"

2) Fraud -- "I got fucked by the car dealer."

3) Resignation -- "Oh, fuck it!"

4) Trouble -- "I guess I'm fucked now."

5) Aggression -- "FUCK YOU!"

6) Disgust -- "Fuck me."

7) Confusion -- "What the fuck...?"

8) Difficulty -- "I don't understand this fucking business!"

9) Despair -- "Fucked again...."

10) Pleasure -- "I fucking couldn't be happier."

11) Displeasure -- "What the fuck is going on here?"

12) Lost -- "Where the fuck are we?"

13) Disbelief -- "UN-FUCKING- BELIEVABLE! "

14) Retaliation -- "Up your fucking ass!"

15) Denial -- "I didn't fucking do it."

16) Perplexity -- "I know fuck-all about it."

17) Apathy -- "Who really gives a fuck, anyhow?"

18) Greetings -- "How the fuck are ya?"

19) Suspicion -- "Who the fuck are you?"

20) Panic -- "Let's get the fuck out of here."

21) Directions -- "Fuck off."

22) Awe -- "How the fuck did you do that?"

It can be used in an anatomical description -- "He's a fucking asshole."

It can be used to tell time -- "It's five fucking thirty."

It can be used in business -- "How did I wind up with this fucking job?"

It can be maternal -- "Motherfucker."

It can be political -- "Fuck Clinton!"

It may also have been used by many notable people throughout history at crucial times:

"What the fuck was that?" -- Mayor of Hiroshima

"Where did all these fucking Indians come from?" -- General Custer

"That's not a real fucking gun, is it?" -- John Lennon

"Who's gonna fucking find out?" -- Richard Nixon

"Why the fuck did that apple hit me?" -- Issac Newton

"Heads are going to fucking roll." -- Marie Antoinette

"I could have used a fucking map." -- Ulysses

"Where the fuck is all this water coming from?" -- Captain of the Titanic

"Any fucking idiot could understand that." -- Albert Einstein

"It DOES SO fucking look like her!" -- Picasso

"Okay, I know... we'll build this BIG fucking wall to keep them out."

-- Emperor of the Ch'in Dynasty

"I can't believe I just fucking said that." -- Patrick Henry

"Fucking backstabbers! " -- Julius Caesar

"You want what on the fucking ceiling?" -- Michelangelo

"Fellatio is not fucking!" -- Bill Clinton

"Where is that fucking pizza guy?" -- Elvis

"Why? Because its fucking there!" -- Sir Edmund Hilary

"I don't suppose its gonna fucking rain?" -- Joan of Arc

"Scattered fucking showers my ass." -- Noah

"I need this parade like I need a fucking hole in my head." -- John F. Kennedy

"What are the fucking chances I'm going to heaven?" -- Adolf Hitler

"Hey, where the fuck are your turbans?" -- Christopher Columbus when he discovered the 'Indians'.